Experience is a Necessary Teacher


I charged $50 for my first paid magic show and I still feel guilty about taking money for it.

I’m thankful it was a young person’s birthday party and they were more interested in the toys after I was done.

I needed way more experience on stage.

  • Booked to perform during a Mother’s Day brunch and the owner of the restaurant wanted me to perform as people were eating. In the magic world, this is a huge no-no. I took it anyway and learned that lesson.
  • Booked a children’s birthday party and packed so much stuff, it took me six trips to my car to get it all in the house. The performance space ended up being so small, there was no room to fit everything.
  • Booked a show with a municipality and it took them two months before paying me after my incessant nagging.
  • Booked a show for an event and they said it would be an hour delay before I would perform. I was late to my next booking and no excuses could cover the unprofessionalism of that happening.
  • Worked with an agent who booked me out for a fraction of what he was charging the clients and still asked to take a few dollars of my income for “his cut.”

Took a lot of good advice from a lot of great people and things eventually began to shift.

Raised my rates, set the terms of my contract and had them respected, booked gigs I wanted to take and worked with an agent is not only fantastic, but fair in his dealings.

I wanted to be a writer.

My first submission for publication happened when I was sixteen. The response was, “Is English your first language?”

C+ You should go seek help at the writing centre  – a Professor wrote on my paper.

You need to write more. I love reading what you have to say – that same Professor wrote on my paper a few years later.

“You’re a waste of talent and should be writing more,” Jast told me. We started Tommy|Zor and it was obvious I needed work. I didn’t have a voice.

Years later, we published a book.

“I love the tone of this book,” is my number one feedback for Transforming the Heart.

You’re getting there,” Silver said in regards to my fiction. It only took me six novel attempts.

Even though I was reading tons of good advice and seeking it directly from people, it took experience for that advice to make sense.

Reading and listening to advice is only the precursor.

Putting it into practice is the beginning.

Endless, deliberate practice is the path to getting where you want.